When you’re in an emotionally/verbally abusive relationship, it’s not always easy to spot the warning signs. Physical contact may not be involved, thus the other indications could be subtle—but just as detrimental to your confidence and mental health. Here are some ways your partner may be exerting negative control.
1.Calling you names, insulting you or continually criticizing you
By putting you down, they are trying to make you believe you’re beneath them. The abuser is all about ensuring he has the upper hand in the relationship.
2.Refusing to trust you and acting jealous or possessive
You’ve never given your partner any reason to believe that you’re being disloyal to them, but they’re constantly accusing you of cheating. Meanwhile, they may be the one cheating on you to intentionally try to hurt you. And when the truth surfaces, they blame you for their behavior.
3.Monitoring where you go, who you call and who you spend time with
If you’re in this relationship, the abuser will do their best (or rather, worst) to isolate you from your family or friends. They’re possessive of your time. They may also isolate you for fear that your loved ones will find out the truth about how they’re treating you.