Psychologist Stephen Johnson writes that the narcissist is someone who has “buried his true self-expression in response to early injuries and replaced it with a highly developed, compensatory false self.” This alternate persona to the real self often comes across as grandiose, “above others,” manipulative, self-absorbed, and highly insensitive.
It’s not easy when you’re negatively impacted by the machinations of a chronic narcissist, especially if that individual is your romantic partner, parent, child, relative, friend, coworker, or supervisor. How do you tell someone that he or she is behaving narcissistically? Here are four effective communication ideas from my book, How to Successfully Handle Narcissists. The first two tips are indirect, and the second two are direct. Use them as appropriate depending on the situation.