13 Warning Signs You´Re In A Really Bad Relationship
- Are you in a shitty relationship but are so afraid to admit it to yourself?
- Do you continuously suppress that gut feeling when it tells you something is not right?
- Be sincere, what comes to your mind when you think about your partner and the relationship?
Usually, when one is in a bad relationship, they are always the last to know despite the glaring signs. These signs are clear to everyone except the person stuck in the relationship.
Nobody wants to admit that they are in a bad relationship, but when you get that gut feeling that something is not right, then it’s time to sit out and follow your instincts.
Ignoring these signs will only hurt you more.
Read on, and you will find;
- The 14 common signs of a bad relationship
14 Warning Signs of a Shitty Relationship
If these signs keep cropping up in your relationship, then it’s time to reevaluate your priorities or probably quit the relationship:
The number one sign of an unhealthy relationship is the lack of openness to your friends and family of what your partner does or says. If you have to keep covering up for his behaviors, then you are in a toxic relationship.
Keeping secrets from each other is also not a good sign either. The real essence of being in a relationship is to share your lives.
The lack of willingness to reveal where you are, with whom, and what you are up to is a sure sign that something is not right. It only means there is no sincerity in the relationship and that is bad.
2. Suspicion and insecurity
Checking out on your partner is good and healthy for the relationship, but what is the frequency? Does your partner call you frequently and demands to know where you are, what you are doing, and with who? Is he/she controlling on the people you should hang out with?
These are signs of mistrust and deep insecurity which is not healthy for the relationship. A good relationship should have healthy boundaries. Partners have the freedom to enjoy a life outside the relationship. You need time to hang out with the girls or the boys, or even just have some alone time.
If your partner wants to know your every move, then there is no future in that relationship. A relationship cannot thrive without trust. As difficult as it may be, you need to evaluate why he/she doesn’t trust you. If the situation doesn’t improve, quitting may be the best option before you hurt yourselves further.
3. Pure disregard for your feelings and lack of respect
Nothing sucks like being put down consistently by somebody you love. It’s a confidence knocker and a kick on your self-esteem. You can fight, disagree or even argue but is he/she respectful in the heat of the argument?
Be careful and pay attention to the words he/she uses when emotions run wild. There’s no point of calling each other names or using one’s weakness to put them down during an argument then apologizing later.
If your partner doesn’t respect you and takes advantage of every opportunity to put you down, and thinks its okay, then darling, you are in a manipulative and toxic relationship. There’s no point of being with someone who does not value you.
4.Lack of communication
This is no brainer, without proper communication, a relationship cannot thrive.
Proper communication makes it easy for partners to express their feelings openly to one another without the fear of being judged.
Be wary if you notice that it is one-sided. If it’s you who does all the calling and texting, then something is not right.
It only means that your partner has no time for you and only takes you as an option. No matter how busy someone is, they will always create time for the person they love.
5. Constant fights and arguments
It’s emotionally draining and mentally exhausting. If you are always fighting or arguing even over petty things, it only means that you and your partner are not good for one another.
While it’s normal to fight once in a while, you should be careful when the frequency increases. Look at it this way, occasional fights are healthy because they make the relationship stronger, but when your partner wants to have their way and continually shuts you down during an argument, then that’s not healthy.
Fights should be respectful, and the primary focus should be the things hurting the relationship or the cause of the fight for that matter.
You should, however, ensure that you solve your difference, which is the real essence of relationships; you disagree and agree later. If you cannot resolve your disputes and prefer to bottle up all the negative emotions, they will soon spill out and hurt you even more.
6. You don’t have the same short term and long term goals
Imagine you are in a relationship with someone whose goals and outlook of life are not compatible with yours. You will be pulling in different directions, and mehn it’s draining.
While you cannot have the same views about family finances, parenting or even investing, but are your partner’s goals geared for the well being of the family or they don’t have a goal? This may not necessarily be among the worst signs of a bad relationship, but it’s something to pay attention to.
If you realize that your partner lacks focus, sit them down and try to make them see sense in having some direction or ambitions. If they cannot change even after talking to them, then it only means that you are not walking towards the same direction.
7. Physical and emotional abuse
You can’t even begin imagine what physical and emotional abuse can do to your self-esteem and health. If you are in an abusive relationship, the best thing you can do to yourself is moving out before you die.
Studies have revealed that physical and emotional abuse can lead to both short term and long term health concerns. The outward signs of physical abuse are pretty obvious; a black eye, a broken arm or leg, a cut here or there, but effects of emotional abuse run deep. It could even lead to depression.
There no point of staying in an abusive relationship because you may end up dying from the injuries or depression. If there are kids involved, it will also affect them, and they will grow up knowing that it’s okay to fight.
It’s important to value yourself and say no to abuse. No matter how much you love your husband or wife, if they are abusive, and refuse to change, appreciate yourself enough, pick up the pieces and move on with your life. You deserve better.
8. If you have to drop everything to attend to them, then you are in a toxic relationship
A manipulative partner would get angry if you don’t respond to their call immediately. If your partner is the type that gets mad for such petty reasons, then he is not the right person for you.
He/she probably calls when they need something from you and not to check out how you are, and if you don’t pick up because maybe you are busy with something and were not expecting their call, they go into a fit.
This is a sign that you should not leave unaddressed.
9. Your friends and family don’t approve of the relationship
If there are people who would want the best for us, then it’s our family and friends. It’s okay if one or two of your friends or family members don’t like your partner but not everybody.
Here’s the bigger picture, when you are in love, it’s difficult to see your partner’s fault. The people around you may see one or two issues about your girlfriend or boyfriend that you may not see or probably don’t think it’s a big deal.
The best you can do is to heed their advice and consider their concerns. If it’s something that can be sorted, then do so before you get more involved in the relationship and end up being hurt.
10. When your partner’s primary focus is what you can give them
While it’s okay to help one another, the help should be mutual and not conditional.
Why would you be with someone who puts pressure on you that they would quit the relationship if you don’t buy them the latest trends in the market or take them to particular places? That is pure manipulative, and you should not take such crap.
A partner who is materialistic is not only financially draining but is emotionally draining and is never grateful no matter how much you push yourself to please them. Now, why would you want to be with such a person?
11. Drug abuse
Being in a relationship with a drug addict may not be the best thing that can happen to anyone.
Drug addicts don’t know when or how to stop. They would do anything to get the drugs including stealing from you.
If you love the person so much, the best you can do for them is to help them find help. Talk to them to stop or convince them to go for rehabilitation. Nothing hurts like seeing the person you love waste their lives away.
Leaving them when they need a helping hand may not be the best solution, but you can help them kick out that habit. They have to be willing though, and if they are not ready, you have your sanity to protect.
12. If your partner hides you and wants your relationship to be a secret
Usually, when someone is in love, they always want to shout it out to the world. Any man or woman, who is proud of his /her spouse and has nothing to hide, would want to introduce them to their friends and everyone who cares.
Be careful if your partner does not want the public to know about your existence. It means they are unfaithful or they are not ready to be with you.
13.If you don’t feel loved despite the reassurance
If your partner keeps telling you that they love you, but they don’t show it, then you are in the wrong relationship.
What is the point of someone telling you that they love you but cannot even make a sacrifice for you? What is the point of emotions if you cannot express them? If someone truly loves and cares about you, they will go out of their way to make you happy.
If your partner or spouse is the type who does not show you how much he loves you by actions, then it’s time to check what his priorities are.
Love is for sure the most beautiful thing. We all desire to love and be loved back. Sometimes we fall for the wrong people and end up in bad relationships.
If you suspect that you are in a bad relationship, I urge you today to check out if the above signs of a bad relationship keep cropping up in your love life or even write down what you are going through to find some clarity because writing does that.
I know it’s difficult to walk out of a relationship especially if you have heavily invested your emotions, but I hope you find the courage to love yourself and say enough is enough to toxic relationships. You still have the right to be happy and be with someone who values you.
Sit out of that crappy relationship and seek your happiness!